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Nardi T's avatar

This push and pull of yearning for someone while trying to maintain self-respect is something I also find incredibly exhausting

With love, Mairo Write's avatar

I tire o 😭😭😭

I mean why does it have to be that way

Muhammad Amina's avatar

God! I thought I was the only one in this situation 🥺 sometimes I used to think I was possessed 😭

With love, Mairo Write's avatar

I promise I thought I worst, I always ask why me why me every whole Damn time,!

I am starting to believe it’s not a we women thing sincerely it’s just a trait. Men are incapable of giving a live so mundane in a very beautiful way and I have come to terms with it.

Men simply don’t care!!! But trust me there are OTHER MEN who care and that’s the type of man that one should end up with. InShaAllah

Muhammad Amina's avatar

In Sha Allah 🤍

With love, Mairo Write's avatar

Ameeen 🤍🫂

Tiffany Jai's avatar

This is right on time. You voiced my feelings and thoughts. Since the last end, I’ve been focusing on loving me and creating something for myself. I don’t want to be rejected and left alone again. I want to love and be loved. I want to be soft. It’s hard, but I know it will be worth it in the end.

ThisJoy's avatar

As soon as I started dating myself, treating myself to indulgence I could afford, self care like facials and good dinners out , started attracting people. I went a dating site inspired by the increased attention. I met my husband April 7th and married him on my birthday September 7th, exactly 5 months later in 2023. My point is clean inside your house before you do the yard. You are beautiful and your partner is doing work right now to meet you.

Aliya H's avatar

Thank you for sharing your story💕

Sashanna's avatar

This came at the right time. I’m currently broken and needed to hear this. I always get lost in the person I love and somehow my insecurities and all my emotions that I’ve buried cause I didn’t wanna face them come right to surface. Now I’m relearning who I am, what brings me joy and happiness.

Itssnoteee's avatar

Beautifully written

Nina's avatar

I feel so seen in this. I think dating right now is so scaring so this is so validating in the fact that it’s okay to wait for what feels right and aligned with you.

Emmy Lidhran's avatar

Often, we need to create it ourselves and that's beautiful 🤗

Sonya's avatar

Wow.... this explains my 2025 love life. So ready for the new year and beginnings of loving on me.☺️

Olabisi Green's avatar

Personally , I feel the kind of love that makes you love yourself more comes when you least expect it . I think expecting love from someone heightens your emotions and even the bare minimum looks like what you need . I agree with your friend “ it is protection " . The epic love catches you when you are unaware , when you do not expect it to even come at all ...... It is a beautiful thing to yearn but yearning probably starts from loving your own company more than anything else .

ShanicexLola's avatar

Felt that!

Peplum's avatar

Thank you for seeing me

smizzo's avatar

say it louder for the girls at the back https://substack.com/home/post/p-183835350

liv within's avatar

This will sit with me for a long time - beautifully written!

Tricia's avatar

I love everything about this story!! It truly reminds me of myself in my 20s with those same thoughts and feelings you've expressed. ✨️